There comes a point in healing where you stop wanting to be chosen and start wanting to be aligned.
This post explores how to define and live your relationship values — emotional presence, curiosity, safety, and growth — so you can build love rooted in truth, not tension.

Most people think growth is about action. But the hardest part is awareness—the gut punch of finally seeing yourself clearly. Awareness isn’t judgment or a directive. It’s information—and it’s the start of everything that matters.

We’re taught that tears mean something’s wrong. But what if crying is how we move pain through and out of us? A love letter to tears and the healing they bring.

Coaching looks forward. Therapy looks back. Both help us make sense of who we are — just from different angles. One asks why, the other asks what’s next? This piece untangles the myths and overlaps of coaching vs. therapy, with a little honesty, a little humor, and a lot of humanity.

Sam Harris once said, “On one level, wisdom is nothing more profound than the ability to follow one’s own advice” (Harris, 2014). That line struck me, because it reveals something deceptively simple: wisdom is not about what you know — it’s about whether you live it.

On my own path of growth — as a coach, a therapist-in-training, and a student of human relationships — I’ve gathered a lot of knowledge. I’ve studied communication skills, accountability, and emotional awareness. But here’s the uncomfortable question that keeps returning: Am I living what I know?

And if I’m not, what’s stopping me?